X is for Xenodochial

Xenodochial - adjective Something or someone that is friendly to strangers.

Just going to say that I am very pleased with myself for persevering until I found an awesome 'X' word and not settling on X-Ray vision.

As a community Spoonies tend to be pretty welcoming, accepting and xenodochial, possibly because it's not something we experience all that often ourselves. Strangers often give spoonies a rather wide berth, maybe they're scared they can catch whatever makes us 'weird' or because they don't want to be associated with someone so 'lazy', perhaps they are just scared of what they don't understand. Whatever their reasoning, it can be rough on chronically ill people to have the public avoid them so actively. 

Within our little world though pretty much everyone is accepted, no matter what you've got going on, where you are or even what you call yourself. In one of the online communities I'm happy to be a part of every new member does a little introduction that tells us who they are, what their illness or problems are, and what they like to do with their time and sometimes these can be a little outside of the box but nobody ever says anything other than 'welcome!' before immediately involving them in conversations about shared interests. 

What I'm trying to say here is that if people who have so much bad  in their lives can be kind and welcoming then what's stopping 'regular' people? Being welcomed despite our differences is one of those feelings that doesn't disappear; it's a feeling that we subconsciously pass forward and it's wonderful.

 So where ever you are, whoever you are and whatever you're doing, I challenge you to open your arms (metaphorically, hugs can hurt) and welcome the world.

The 'community' I'm referring to is mostly online on various social media sites and email, but also through snail-mail and support groups. There are many sites/places for all sorts of key demographics but the one I mention here is The Pillow Fighters Club on Facebook. I don't have any vested interest in the site, I just find it very fun and useful, I also write for the The Pillow Fort magazine. http://thepillowfort.co.uk/